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   Discernment Counseling 

If you or your partner are considering a breakup or a divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot and Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your relationship.

Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular couples or marriage counseling would help--and the other is "leaning in”—that is, interested in rebuilding the relationship or marriage.

I will help you decide whether to try to restore your relationship to health, move toward splitting up, or take a time out and decide later.

The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.

The goal is not to solve your problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect, no matter how you are feeling about your relationship at the moment. 

You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations with the me. Why? Because you are starting out in different places.

I will respect your reasons for splitting up while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the relationship to health.

I will emphasize the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ends.

Number of Sessions: A maximum of five counseling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and the subsequent are 80 minutes.

Discernment Counseling is not suited for these situations:

-When one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce

-When one spouse is coercing the other to participate

-When there is danger of domestic violence

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